1. Don't praise their gender performance.
On a date, you definitely want to get closer to each other by complimenting each other. After all, almost everyone likes to hear compliments and so on. But you know, not all compliments work in trans dating. If your compliment involves her sex and sex change surgery and so on, then your partner may not feel that you are complimenting her. What's more, she'll think that you're dating not because you're interested in her, but because you're curious about her transgender identity. If you really want to praise the other person, you can try to praise her work and life and so on.
2. Don’t rush to the personal topics
Like other appointments, you should be sensitive to the questions you ask. Don't ask inappropriate questions at the beginning of a relationship. If you are curious about your date's physical, transitional or sexual history, wait for your transgender hookup partner to bring it up.Generally speaking, don't ask transgender people what surgery or hormone therapy they have done. If they want to discuss this issue, they will raise it. Although some cross-border people are willing to discuss these topics with friends, most people do not want to discuss these topics with new acquaintances.
3. Don't ask them about their pre-transition life unless they ask for it.
You may be curious about what your date used to be like and what their life was like before their transition. However, asking this question will make your transgender hookup partner feel that you are only interested in them because of their change. It can also bring many painful memories to some people. Don't ask them what they used to be called, and don't use them. Using a trans-person's previous name is known as a "dead name", which can be very harmful. If you know your date before they change, be sensitive to what parts of your common history you bring. Talking about what you're doing together is not gender-based.
4. Remember, your date doesn't need you to comfort them.
Avoid temptation to tell your transgender hookup partner that you are "good" to transgender people, or that you think transgender people are admirable or "cool". You can show that you are "good" or admire your date simply by respecting them. Tell them you're "good" and it sounds like you're asking them to thank you for respecting them. Similarly, telling your date somewhere that they are "brave" may be considered condescending. Your transgender hookup partner doesn't want you to tell them at random that you don't think they're trans. They're trans. There's nothing to be ashamed of.